This is a question that many of us have the answer to but we struggle with actually putting it in words. Those of us that have experienced the devastation of heartbreak barely want to talk about it because of the intensity of the emotion and the few who do want to talk about it can’t stop because that experience molded them into who they currently are. The most interesting thing about heartbreak is the effects it can have on your life, mentally and physically. A seemingly unmendable pain exists deep within, and the only possible remedy that could give you relief is the very same impetus that caused it. It is truly one of the more difficult things to explain and to overcome. So how do we describe this anomaly?
“Like glass breaking inside the body trying to pierce its way out, it’s an unforgiving feeling”
The passion behind each description of heartbreak alone displays the impact emotionally. Many of my informants made metaphors connecting heartbreak to torturous physical pain. One said it feels like a wisdom tooth, the pain comes and goes but you have no control. The last part of the quote above really resonated with me, heartbreak is truly unforgivable. When you think you are doing better it sends you a small reminder that you have not truly made any progress in getting over the pain and the wound is still very tender. Then you have to restart your rebuilding process.
For me, heartbreak is extremely difficult because I am a person who wears my emotions on my sleeve, so it really consumes my life. I become less active, less sociable, and much more emotional. The best description I can give about heartbreak is a poem I wrote after a break-up. The link is posted at the end of this blog post. What are your thoughts, and of course thank you for your opinion.
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