This question is very difficult to answer because we are taught that when you love something or someone, you should never give up but is there a breaking point? And if so what is it? This is really a difficult question for me because I struggle with letting people go and hurting them so I would rather endure and wait for something to happen than entirely get up and leave but I am sure that is not always the right answer, so what does one do in this predicament?
“When your personal happiness is being jeopardized, and the effort you’re putting in isn’t being reciprocated”
“If I notice that I’m depositing more into you and you take advantage of that, underestimate that or expect that…”
As difficult as this question seems to answer, many of my informants had similar answers and I realized that answering the question is not the difficult part, the difficult part is sticking to your answer when your in the situation. Many of my informants followed the quote on the right which is something I definitely have to agree with. In my opinion, life is all about the experiences you have and those experiences should bring you happiness. If that particular action is no longer bringing you happiness than is it worth pursuing or even working to improve? It may be easier to compare to a sport. I loved football and truly had a passion for playing, when that passion began to fade I decided to stop playing and I am still able to love the sport from a far without actively participating. Do you think the same situation could be relevant for a person? Or do we hold these situations differently because we have different emotional connections to people? The second quote really talks about the other person giving up or showing lack of effort in trying to improve the situation and that is the prime alert to say it is over. As long as two people are putting effort to improve the relationship then things will eventually get better but once someone gives up then there is eventual termination en route. And that is a very logical reason to leave.
For me, I really try not to give up on people but I eventually stop putting as much effort as I did before. I never really lose my love for things so I can not say that I would stop caring about the item or person but I will allocate my attention elsewhere if the item or person is not bringing me the happiness I deserve. I do agree with the quotes above though, I am always willing to improve if the other person is but once they fade away I will only chase for so long. What are your thoughts, and of course thank you for your opinion.
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