Of all the questions I have asked before, this one received the least amount of responses because I believe it was too honest for most people but if I expect my informants to be honest, I have to be 100% honest as well, so I will answer the question first. Yes, I have cheated in a relationship. But the key to answering this question is not “Did you do it?” but it’s more so “Why did you do it?” and “How did you feel after you did it?” These questions matter much more than your first answer in my personal opinion. Before diving into my reasoning, I would like to say there is no legitimate reason to cheat. If you have the unyielding urge and truly cannot control it then maybe you should not be in a relationship to begin with. As for me, my decision came from long term curiosity and I did not have the restraint or the maturity to resist the opportunity when it presented itself. Although that was not the best decision I made, I definitely learned a lot from it and realized that is something I do not want to be a part of my intimate relationships. After doing it, I did not know how to feel. Part of me felt liberated because what had happened but the other part of me felt very guilty and regretful because I had jeopardized my relationship for temporary satisfaction.
“I cheated in a relationship because I wanted to see what something new felt like. I was thinking about my girlfriend the entire time.”
This quote brings me to brings me to a new question, “What do you do when you have that curiosity?” In this situation it was clear he still loved his girlfriend and he did not want to leave her but on the other hand he desired a new experience. Although cheating may not have been the right decision, what do you think the right alternative could have been? What would you have done in that dilemma?
“No, but if I did it would be with the person I’m suppose to be with”
Another very interesting answer I received to this question was the quote above and I really pondered this for a minute but it made sense. This particular person felt if someone could draw her out of her relationship then their connection was stronger than the person she was originally with. Again, cheating may not be the answer but this response displays the power of true love.
I understand this is a very touchy topic for most people and a lot of people are not willing to talk about it but there’s so much to learn from the difficult things to talk about. We all make mistakes in life but it’s not about what you did, it is about how you recover and learn from that mistake so you don’t do it again but on the other hand for some, it may have never been a mistake in the first place, but that’s for you to figure out… What are your thoughts, and of course thank you for your opinion.
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