This question represents a timeless love story that we have seen over and over again throughout history, from Romeo and Juliet, to Coming to America and to The West side Story. It seems parents never approve of your true love on the big screen but what is your thought process if this was to happen to you in real life?
“No, because if I really love them, my friends/family are gonna have to learn to respect that. We can discuss why they don’t approve and me and my loved one can work on it if they have valid points…”
Just like the movies, this informant does not believe her family’s opinions rain supreme. Love is one of the most powerful emotions and it was not her family’s doing that brought her to it so she does not believe it should be her family’s doing to pull her away from it. Of course the majority of my informants had similar answers, all framed around “My family is not giving me what he/she is, so they can not take it away” but my favorite part about this particular answer is the end of it. “Me and my loved one can work on it if they have valid points…” this shows that she is willing to try to change things in the interest of her family but she is not willing to just give up.
“Yeah my family is everything if they can’t accept you I got to it let go…”
This informant believes her family comes before any love. If they cannot approve of him then she is not willing to carry the relationship any further which is respectable on her part because she was the only informant to make this decision. I am sure she sees her family as a part of her so if her lover cannot satisfy them, he cannot satisfy her entirely.
For me, I put love above all. I love and appreciate my family more than anything but the love I share between a soulmate is what I would have spent my life looking for. So my decision lies within my relationship and not my family’s mind. I will respect their opinions and take careful consideration to see if their issue is worth terminating my relationship but I am a firm believer in having experiences for yourself and I would chose to proceed with caution. If my loved one fulfilled my parents negative ideas, I will leave them, not because of my parents but because they disappointed me. And there is a possibility I could deal with the “negatives” my family believes are worth terminating the relationship for, and that’s why I would have to experience it for myself first. What are you thoughts, and of course thank you for your opinion.
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