This question is relevant in intimate relationships or friendships, and you can answer whichever you feel you most strongly about but it should be noted that this is not a simple question to answer. I want you to truly challenge yourself and go beyond the standard answers, think about something that would make you NEVER want to talk to an individual again. Most people think cheating or lying as quick responses but I personally do not believe those are things to make you cut someone off permanently. In my personal experience, I have seen friendships and relationships recover from cheating and lying more often than I have seen them end. And this does not mean that those relationships did not struggle because of the lies or infidelities but ultimately some form of connection remained. Through my “research” this question had the least amount of respones because I felt it was the most difficult to answer thus far and most people will forgive virtually anything with enough time but the couple of answers I did receive were very thoughtful.
“If someone dismisses you when you say that they hurt you. If they do that they’re too worried about themselves to ever consider your feelings”
I agree that if someone dismisses you, they truly do not care about you as a person. This was personally my favorite answer because it connected to my life so much. If you know me personally, you know I go out of my way for pretty much anybody but often times that same effort is not reciprocated when the roles are flip and I end up with the short end of the stick consistently. Many times those people do not care about me or my emotions but more so about how I can benefit them.
Another deep response I received from a friend (who is married) was “abuse”. This was another answer I agreed with 100%. Although I personally have never been in an abusive relationship, I have talked to people who have been and I believe that is the utmost disrespect of trust there is. When someone loves you intimately and trusts you with their body, there is no recovery if you chose to disrespect it with physical abuse. Even mental abuse can have lasting effects and become just as corrosive as physical abuse.
Personally, I’m not sure if I even have an answer to this question. I have forgiven people and rekindled relationships that friends have advised against and I know people have forgiven me when they could have ended our relations and because of that I believe I should return the favor to others. I am an extreme extrovert and I appreciate friendships and relationships so I try my hardest to overcome any challenges that I may endure with someone and truth be told I don’t think there is truly anything that I could never forgive… except maybe murder but even then, they say “Time heals all”. What are your thoughts, and of course thank you for your opinion.
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