This question has two parts after you give your first answer. If yes, do you believe people can change? If no, would be trust someone with an unpresentable past? I had to play devil’s advocate on this question because either side is defendable. As we live through our lives, we do not know what the future holds so sometimes it is difficult to make decisions considering people we may not have met yet, like our wives or husbands. So before answering, put yourself in the other shoes, would you want to be judged for something you did years before you met your loved one?
“None because everybody has a past it’s the future is what they can control”//”If they didn’t do anything to me personally then I will still have faith”
I featured both of this informant’s responses because they were both very valid statements. For him, he understands some people have had experiences in the past they may not have been proud of but that does not stop him from giving them an opportunity. And when I asked him about if he would have faith in a person with a troubled past he had a great answer. With his response, he is saying even with those questionable things done in the past, they could have been unique situations so as long as those questionable things were not done to him then he his willing to give that person a chance which is honorable in my opinion.
“People are what they’ve experienced so 100% no doubt”
This informant strongly believes you are a representation of your past. I am assuming that in her world, regardless of the situation or decision that was made, there is a part of you that decided to make that decision for some reason. When I asked her if she believes people can change she said yes, and that people change everyday whether it be minuscule or grandiose but she also believed life is a domino effect and a perpetual cycle and eventually you will revert to you old ways.
For me, I do not judge people based off of their past because I know my slate is not necessarily the most presentable. If you and I have a strong enough connection in present day, I think we will be able to push through things from the past. As long as you can show me growth from those past things then I would never hold it against you, in my mind you are innocent until proven guilty. If we as people, went around judging everyone on who they use to be we would miss a lot of opportunities on meeting great people and having great experiences. We have all made mistakes before and it is important to consider that when making decisions on people. What are your thoughts, and of course thank you for your opinion.
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